Relationships and Social Media: The Lovestruck Syndrome



In a world full of #goals and social media obsessions, relationships have taken the limelight. Whether your single, in a relationship, or just have a significant someone, we have all had encounters with what I like to call, “The Lovestruck Syndrome.” Take a second to think about Instagram and Twitter. Just by taking a scroll through your feed, you come across celebrity couples, social media relationships (what today’s day and age aspire to have), and then your occasional, boring “here is me vacationing/with my family/with my dog/etc” post. Bottom line- nothing is more important than relationships.

On a road trip with a friend of mine, she came across a post written by a girl she used to go to school with about her boyfriend of a few months. Now I am not here to judge anyone’s posting habits, or caption games (keep em strong!), but there is something to be said when a post becomes too much. The girl goes off to say how much she loves her boyfriend and the simple gestures he does, but then takes it to another level when she mentions how other girls hit on her boyfriend, .and another level still saying they have a right to because of how perfect he is! Don’t get me wrong, I love my boyfriend, but all of my followers don’t care to know about our dates or how hot he is.

So why has the obsession with relationships become such a concern to the millennials?

Movies and pop culture portray a certain behavior that should be expected out of relationships, whether they are long term or short flings. Steamy, extravagant gestures, passionate, slightly (or blatantly) cheesy, and did I mention really hot and heavy? These perceptions alter the way we view our relationships, and it is only human nature to compare our partnerships to the ones we see on our TV sets. Our generation has an innate need to achieve these unrealistic and contrived relationships. Why is that? Why can’t we be content with our humble lifestyles and sweet gestures, instead of shooting for the moon and being disappointed when we only reach the stars? I hope that everyone and anyone reading this article realizes that television and social media create FICTIONAL settings which are created for viewers pleasure – not lessons to take to your book of life goals.

Insta famous couples, Jay Alvarez and Alexis Ren (the list goes on and on), have created the perception of a “perfect” relationship. Filled with beautiful island getaways, insane vacations, and modeling campaigns, nothing says #goals like this couple’s feed. But the honest truth is that even if you can’t help but be pulled into their alluring lifestyle ( I am constantly susceptible), these pictures show that none of their moments are candid. They are all concocted for their viewers. Do I doubt that they have those picture perfect moments off camera? No! But the majority of the time, their relationship morphed into a brand name that they were able to springboard their careers off of. Social Media has a pretty strong pull on America’s youth, and even though the couple has separated (I know –  heartbreaking), their pictures will forever remain in our hearts and our #relationshipgoals board.

No matter your relationship status, a relationship is between two people – not the rest of the world. Each person is entitled to their own posting criteria and how they wish to go about it, but the most important thing is that these posts should be honest, respectful, and you! If you want to publicize your every move, that’s cool, but do it for yourself rather than trying to compete with other “Insta-cute” couples. And if you are not big on publicizing your relationship to the world, that’s cool too. Point is: stay conscious about what you’re putting out there (whatever your reason) and never under any circumstance compare your relationship to others’ based on their crafted social media. For all you single people out there, you are not alone. Jay and Alexis are single now, so hit em up!

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